Era of “Modern Women” is the Wimpy Men’s Paradise

Ever since, I never was popular with the women. Especially during high school days, I was mostly viewed as the “best friend” type for the girls. Friendzoned – as what the current young ones use to call it. And some other time I was looked at by other girls as a bit “effeminate”.  Maybe it was due to my closeness with my mom that I had been mimicking her actions unconsciously. Though not to boast but I am aware that there were also those who had crushes on me. But that’s just it. 



I’m not like my other guy friends who were counting girlfriends and flings around the campus. It’s not that I didn’t get attracted to the pretty ladies. I had lots of crushes actually.  And I did get some bit of courage to send cheap gifts, wrote letters and had phone calls with some of them. But I did it inconsistently and poorly. I didn’t even know what to tell them. And atop of not knowing what to do was my awareness that I wasn’t ready then to be in a relationship because first reason was I didn’t have time yet. Second was I didn’t have money. I always thought that to have a girlfriend means giving up lots of time for her and then spending for weekly dates. My daily allowance was enough for a single decent meal and a 2-way transportation fare and I was also not allowed to be outside our house after 7pm. 

My daily allowance in high school.

Doing a little analysis, courage wasn’t really my issues then. It was my readiness. I was also not looking to have relationships just for the sake of it. I always think that to have a girlfriend means there's something with that woman that you see her as part of your future.  And that men should be working hard to show that we deserve the women’s time and attention.  And during dates, though it’s really practical now that women give their share, still the men should insist paying and even if they expect to share, men should have enough to cover all their expenses. Oh yes, I’m a bit old fashioned and traditional.

Many women of today say that they are now more “empowered” than ever. I do agree. And I also support them on this.  

Just like how courtship is an option now. Many relationships simply start with an “agreement” between the two. If the guy and the girl like each other then that’s it. It does not even need to be personal. It can be done via sms or via social media statuses or message. And it’s not always the guys who make the first move. Many girls are now sending the first “feelers” to the guys that they like.  And for some modern women, it’s normal. And gone were the days of the well covered women. Peeping-toms ran out of business because now everyone can be like them without doing much effort. Skins are showing everywhere.  

Casual dress of today are smaller than the swimsuits of the past (photo credit: debyclark.blogspot.com)

 

Men can also throw responsibility out of the window. They can do almost everything now since many women feel that they too can “cooperate” with men in avoiding from being accountable in what they do. Premarital sex is now ok to both sexes since contraceptives are always available for them. And there are women who volunteer to do it themselves so they can also enjoy their life without the consequences. And the guys don’t need to worry anymore about getting them impregnated. Second thoughts are unnecessary.

Though there are still a lot of women (and men) who don’t act that way. But there are really those who believe in such kind of “empowerment”.  For them, it’s all about their choice. It is about choosing their preferred lifestyle, their actions, how they talk and they dress, etc. I got no problem with that. I am just wondering if it’s them that is being empowered or is it the other way around. It’s because rather than making lives easier for the girls, it seems that it’s the boys who are enjoying the show more.

By changing the norms, men can get things easier now. No need to make lots of effort. No more courtships. No need for waiting. And sometimes, no need to respect and treat women as women. Many men see having “relationships” as a game since there’s no need of seriousness now as they can get in and out of it instantly. They can score more since the defense is down, and that basically, the other side is also doing more on the offense if we are to use basketball language here.

The wimps are really enjoying it. Just imagine if they were born during our grandpas’ generation, I doubt if they can do their thing.  These softies are lucky. Because of these modern women, everything else is easier. Gone were the days of the “alpha males” and the “loser guys”.  Every guy can now effortlessly do what the other guy on the next seat can.

I was talking about “women empowerment” but I can’t help seeing these scenarios since they are true and they are happening. But if I have to judge, I have to give it to the women of the recent past. They are far more “powerful” than their present counterparts.  Besides having to enjoy almost every right that a human being must have like in their careers, education, etc., they still had these advantages than what some of these women modernists have.   

During their time, men needed to exert themselves to win women’s hearts. The males were at their mercy and are expected to be patient and to wait for women’s decisions and timeline.  Women then talked about their selves with more respect. They never called themselves “bitches” nor being proud of it. Unlike now where “proud bitches” are around.  And objectification of women is now the in thing among celebrities. To be on top of men’s fantasies is a dream and an achievement. Compare this before that a simple “whistle” towards the females was considered offensive. And we now dance to music with lyrics about “whores” and female body parts.

Oh well. I think that this is really a time when we men don’t need to be much of a man to win women’s hearts. It’s more effortless. And in general, most things that are easy to get ends up being taken for granted.

From This

Gone were the days of the authentic feminists and empowered women when Margaret Thatcher, Mother Theresa, Princess Diana, Ayn Rand, CoryAquino, Golda Meir, Oprah Winfrey and others like them were the role models of the “modern women”.  Now, we see more of the likes of Lady Gaga and Nicki Minaj in the forefront. Though there’s still hope in the likes of Zerlina Maxwell and Malala Yousafzai, admit it that they are relatively unknown compared to the two I mentioned earlier.

 

To this

It had gone notches down from a high point in the 80’s and the 90’s. So what happened to the women’s empowerment advocacy? It’s like someone hijacked it and used it to his/her own liking and interest. I’m thinking of a conspiracy here. Maybe there once were these group of wimpy young guys who were ignored by the pretty girls. They were avoided and ridiculed. No other people would make friends with them. With that, they promised among themselves that someday they would be very rich and powerful. And they will turn the tables around. Things will become easier for them. No need for them to approach the girls because they just have to go around and look around to see and get what they want. And they will create the illusion to the other gender that what they will be doing is empowering to them and that it is what they really want and while doing them unknowingly, it’s the opposite gender that will apparently benefit and enjoy all of these. So, how these guys are doing now? 

Let the Women Speak

After all that had been said and done, in the end,  it's our mothers, wives, sisters, aunts and daughters who are the most affected. It's all about the women's life, health and body. We all came from one and protected by one. And it's all our responsibility to be greatful and respectful for all of them. And thus it is just rightful to give them the last say.

It's time for our women to speak and be heard. So for all my lady readers here, true empowerment comes not from the outside but within you. Speak out. Be heard. And for the gentlemen, share the letter/link below to the women close to your heart. Give them the voice.  Give them the chance.

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          Source: http://filipinosforlife.com/2012/12/01/let-the-women-speak/

WE are women who believe that the Reproductive Health bill, in all its past and present forms, is detrimental to us, our sex, our marriages, and our families.

WE are Catholics and non-Catholics. We are women of faith, and we are also women of reason.

WE believe in true women’s health. We believe in respecting our bodies and the natural processes with which we have been gifted. 

Far from empowering us as women, the RH bill promotes our objectification. It does not address the causes of exploitation and violence against women at their roots. It does not solve the problem of men seeing us as mere sources of pleasure. It does not promote our inherent dignity as human beings worthy of respect. State-funded, state-guaranteed access to contraception only empowers those who wish to take advantage of us without having to worry about consequences.

WE do not believe in artificial birth control. Birth control does not come free. As taxpayers we will be paying for it, and as women we will be suffering its effects on our bodies. We will not tolerate the deliberate dismissal of scholarly research that shows contraception’s deleterious effects. We will not tolerate the trampling of our Constitution that says life must be protected at all stages from conception to natural death. 

We will not tolerate the imposition of governmental contraceptive programs meant to control the population and to brainwash our youth. We do not want the long-term effects of the sexual revolution brought about by a contraceptive mentality.

Granting that the secular government is not beholden to the Catholic or Christian faith, attempting to speak for us women via a socialist agenda destroys the very fiber of democratic breath we have as a people. Doing this undermines our freedom to adhere to something Good, Moral and Ethical. Recognizing our “reproductive” rights as women should not include FORCING us to discard our right to freely believe in morality and goodness and if we choose to, our religious tenets and doctrines.

No one speaks for all of us on these issues. We stand with the Catholic bishops and all leaders, religious and otherwise, who recognize the truth of life-affirming teachings with regard to sex, marriage and family. We call on President Aquino and our Representatives in Congress to heed the voice of all Filipino women, not just the loudest ones. We call on all our leaders to continue to allow us to freely witness to our faiths and beliefs in all their fullness.

Please send your name, address and occupation to the person who sent you this message, or to thefilipinos4life@gmail.com or to thefilipinosforlife@gmail.com. Thank you!