Church and Hypocrisy

The Church was instituted by the Lord, provided her with divine teachings but is LED and MADE UP of IMPERFECT people. The Church cannot be hypocrite but the members can be. Though it will be unfair to tag every sinning churchgoer to be as such. And everyone of us is a sinner.

It depends on your bias to see either a broken person trying to correct himself with the help of the Church or someone who covers his sins with religiosity. Or you can just leave the judgement to the only One who can see through the heart. If there's one case, this is when the favorite "don't judge" phrase by a lot of people is most applicable. But sadly, even this even seems optional upon convenience.

Decency Is Not Hypocrisy

I made a lot of mistakes in my life. Some deliberately while others due to naivete. But no excuses. I did a lot of bad things. Period.

Wrong things are called "wrong" that you have to make them "right" and not to make another one. Realizing that one thing is wrong is the first step to correct it. Acknowledging your imperfection does not mean you are to do more intentional wrongs or you have to tolerate others' mistakes. 

A plane on auto pilot may deviate from the desired path but there's a locator mechanism which brings it back into the right direction just like how your morals and principles redirects you into doing the right things. And being wrong once does not diminish your ability to identify the sins of others. We have the responsibility to guard our actions towards other people and to guide, teach and call out those who are going astray. 

Leader's Apology

I still feel embarrassed every time I remember those mistakes I did in the past. Most especially those that I did while thinking I was doing the right and best thing just to realize later how shameful those actions were. Some say it's maturity. I think it's a curse though. Maybe I better be stuck into thinking they were right all along. Or maybe not. I don't know. I just feel bad about myself. Or maybe, more of how people thought of me. Do they still think I'm like that person now? Or am I just thinking that they still remember me? I hope they don't.

Everyone makes mistakes. Even Steph Curry takes bad shots. Or does he? We are all bound to do something wrong in our jobs and relationships. That's 100% accurate. The difference is our perception and reaction on that mistake. Are we always on denial? Do we always find things to justify it? Or do we accept and apologize for it? 

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Leadership requires strength. Not only physical but more on the emotional. As a leader, getting caught on the wrong end could be seen as a weakness especially if it's a careless one. If you think you can simply hide it, then you're wrong. Your members would be the first one to see and feel it. They might be smiling at you but behind all of that is them thinking that you could have done better. But it's not the end of it. What your followers are looking for is your reaction after that blunder. They listen to your words. Some take it to the heart. They won't bother a lot if you make a mistake. But they would if you do something opposite of what you say. Much more if it's obvious that you are just trying to cover up something. They can smell hypocrisy from a mile. More than anything, that's the worst thing you could do. Just stop. Accept the mistake. Apologize. Make amends. Correct what could be corrected and learn from what you couldn't. Apologizing is strength. And leaders must be strong even when he's wrong.

If given the chance, I would like to apologize for those who I did wrong. Sometimes I can't sleep at night wondering if they are still angry at me. Or maybe laughing thinking how stupid I was. Maybe I'll reach out to some of them soon. Then I'll say sorry then they'll say I'm forgiven. But they could also say "huh?!?". That's more likely. So I'll just stop, move on with my life and try to avoid doing the same mistakes in the future.

The H Word

Hypocrisy is a word thrown around by many for those people who try to remind us about what good things are and which ones aren't. It’s like when a person did one thing wrong in the past, he can never be authoritative anymore to identify what a mistake is. I disagree that hypocrisy is the apt word for them but they sure get a lot of this name-calling every day.

In the past, we have these so called traits.  Like self-control which is to constrain yourself from doing away from the urges for the greater good, decency for doing things at the proper place and time and discipline for acting up right in all circumstances.

A person may have all of the above characters but that does not mean he won’t fall in doing the wrong things. There is still what we call weaknesses. And if it ever happens to him, it does not mean he’s a hypocrite. Mistakes are part of living. Being aware of doing something wrong is better than trying to justify what obviously is wrong while trying to put down the good words of others against it by using the word hypocrite and hoping that it will make his deed right.