Wednesday, September 28, 2016


Questions can either be empowering or dangerous. It depends on the intent of the one inquiring. If the question given was for the purpose of finding answers, it helps not only the one who is asking but also those who are listening. It also opens an opportunity for those who know the answers to transfer knowledge to others. But if the question was blurted out simply to create a statement and the person who gave it is not open to responses, it becomes dangerous to him, to those who sensed the intent and agreed to the insinuation, and to those who will try to answer just to be shut down by the closed minded lot.

Friday, September 2, 2016

My Most Important Mistake

I want to say something to the young ones today who are trying to change the world. Maybe this experience of mine would help them. I'm not that old. Maybe we are just separated by a decade or a half. But those 10 years I managed my time wrongly could spell a better future for you. I'm not living a miserable life and I'm thankful with all that I am today but somehow I could have done better if someone older told me this thing before.

I see a lot of people who spend their youth looking for inspiration. They would try to meet and get in touch with those men and women they look up to. Well, it's not bad at all. Listening and reading from their success stories would help. They might give you a thing or two about fighting obstacles. Maybe a word from them that would light the fire up. 

What's wrong is when these things occupy your time more than it should be. Inspiration is like a drug of the mind. You should not overdose yourself with it or else, it puts you in a dangerous position to think that you can do everything. It sounds good, right? No. You can't do anything if you aren't learning and training yourself with the basics, the techniques and the details. Without these things, you'll be like pumping a balloon up with too much hot air in it without actually knowing where to go. Sure, you might end up in a good place. But the point is, you don't have control of the destination if you lack the skills.

There are not a few managers who think that inspiration is what mostly needed by their men for engagement. It is, but only with the right amount. The innovators and successes of today spent their lives training, learning and practicing. Maybe they read quotes, self help books or heard advice from others. But if you check on their stories, they burned 99% of their time making themselves better than 99% of the people that also tried to do the things they do. They coded thousands of programs, wrote hundreds of stories and researched more different ways to improve many things. That is how they arrived into where they are now. And to the not so young, it is never too late as many of the successful people in history only started doing what they do in their 40s and 50s. 

Inspiration is a good thing. But I see it coming naturally when you find that thing you are interested doing with many years of your life. Inspiration would only push you an inch in doing things you don't like at all. But finding that one you love doing, most especially in something you are naturally good at, or if not, it is where you are willing to spend thousand of hours practicing and training, add the inspiration to it and you will reach thousands of miles.

Friday, August 19, 2016

Acting Beyond Sacrifice

There are instances in life where you find yourself trapped in a sinking ship and the only way to save the rest is for someone to sacrifice himself, do a kamikazee and bring down the biggest enemy with him and provide all who were left on board a chance for survival. Someone has to play the hero part and die for the rest.

But if you choose to take that kamikazee part, unlike in a real war, you'll live to see what happens next. Sometimes, there are after effects that are bitter to swallow. Just remember, it's part of the sacrifice. And that your goal then is for the whole ship to survive which is what satisfies your chosen action.

And since you're alive, you'll have another chance to regroup and reset your goals while you wear that experience as a badge and as a lesson towards your next battles.

Dealing with the News

Tips on how we could address government news and actions less the emotional stress and baggage:

1. Controversial but not essential - for entertainment purposes only. And usually it is there to cover on something that people needs to be focused on. So better be on the lookout. Dont get yourself dragged into the mud pit. Not everything we see at the surface is what it really is. Originally, this is number 3 on the list but I thought this might be what's more important.

2. Good news - It is always great. And it's their job. Let's be thankful then move on with our lives. That's what our votes and taxes should worth anyway. But be cautioned that not all things that seemed to be good are really that good. The devil is always in the details.

3. Bad news - Criticize. Until they listen, improve, act and falls on number 2. Or if you dont care, move on. Let the critics do their work since what they want to happen is also for the most of us. And if the critics are up to no good, most of the time they wont succeed. People would realize it anyway. Same caution as number 2 but in reverse.

Us vs Them

The "us vs them" tactic has been one of the oldest plays in the book yet it still is so effective until today. A lot of us engage in politics yet we seemed aren't coping that we keep letting our guards down and pinning all our hopes to individuals forgetting that most of our leaders are cut from the same mold and gone thru the same system.
Their characters though matter and it is what makes some do better than the others. But better not hold your breath from thinking that someone would be the savior that you've been waiting for.
Let them do their jobs. We already gave them our votes. It's their job to deliver. They have the power and machinery to defend themselves. It's not your job to do that for them. It's not about you or your vote anymore. It's not about the rich against the poor nor the literates against the less knowledgeable. It's not about one party against another party, not one camp against one camp, nor one politician against another one as these things should just happen for a day and that's during the election. But for the rest of our lives, it's us the people against anyone who would deny what is rightly ours. That's where the real "us vs them" should fall into play.

Friday, August 5, 2016

How About Prevention?

There's no denying the fact that our nation is sick. Seems near to terminal level and if not addressed soon, things might turn out to be fatal, that is if it's not yet.

Just like a sick person, there must be something done to get back our country's health. Like most illness, there's a need for consultation, observation and tests. There are cures available but we can't just jump quickly into one if we are serious in fighting society problems. Let's keep in mind that if we are not careful enough, it may cause further damage to what we are trying to fix. Like medicines, some of these may have side effects which can cause more damage than the disease it tries to heal. That's why a doctor considers all aspects first before prescribing one for an individual. 


And often times, prevention is always the best solution just like how upholding and strengthening moral values would strengthen and uplift an ill society. There are some institutions who call for these things. Most policies that are made focus on the end effects and on curbing the problems that are already existing but the promotion of values to counter these diseases of our society from the onset is usually left out. Yet, sadly, those who are trying to fill up that void are being silenced by people who think that these things are counter productive to the policies that are being enforced. Then those who remind us of our values are branded as hypocrites. Ironic that these institutions are silenced to shame by the same ones who are calling for speech and choice freedom.

And we rarely hear our leaders and lawmakers concern themselves about it. They often want the easy way out, not taking the problems on the core but address only what is obvious. For survival, they push for what's popular and not what is necessary. I wonder why people love leaders doing populist solutions when the reason why we put them there is that we think they know better than us and believe that they have more aces up their sleeves that none of us have and thought about. If we are just electing people whom we think will do what most people would, are we not taking advantage of our right of suffrage to put in position someone whom we recognize could think brighter than most of us? 

But definitely, something has to be done to impose and enforce the law to everyone. And there's nothing wrong with either approach as long as they are done within the bounds of the law. A problem so deep needs a multi-faceted approach. A sick person needs to be treated while the healthy ones, which are the majority, needs to learn how to prevent the illnesses.

Tuesday, July 5, 2016

Disagree or Agree to Learn

There are those who readily shut other people down upon learning that they believe in something they don't agree with even if they initially looked up or respected that person for so many reasons. I also encountered this situation even with those I see as my model in life. I also felt disappointed. 

But rather than looking away from them, I try to listen on why they believe the opposite. Besides, I idolized them earlier because I trusted that they know better in many things. Although it does not mean I have to agree with all that they have to say. Upon hearing their sides, the possibility is either I get enlightened with their reasons and nod in agreement to their position, or learn something from their point of view but still disagree. In both scenarios, I learn, I win, I improve. 

Turning our backs and shutting our doors just because of dissenting opinions is a sure fire way not to learn a new thing about the world outside. I did that mistake a lot of times before. And I learned the lesson that I missed a lot more other lessons in doing that.

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