I Will Never Treat You as an Equal

We always wanted to be treated equally. And we also hear many people calling for it nowadays. Equality, they say. But what does that mean? I’m not sure. Because before, I tried to treat everyone as an equal. When I discuss or argue with women, I treated them as an equal. When I talk with people above my age, again, I treated them as an equal. I did not disrespect them. I just talked with them as how I think they should treat me at that point.. Just a straight forward discussion with a person whom I view as my equal.  But after doing that, people called me ungentlemanly and disrespectful of the elders.

So this is how I understood what people truly like. Equal treatment is not really what we want. What we had always been looking for is a better treatment from others. Not equal but better. But do we get it? No. Not always at least. And we can’t get it unless we stop wanting it. Therefore, we must first give it. 

Rather than seeing others as our equal, we must treat each person we meet every day as someone more special and more important than us. No one or just very few will cry “inequality” or “discrimination” from our actions if we do so. That false sense of entitlement and pride is what primarily gives us that feeling of disappointment and mistreatment from others. But once we stop wanting to be treated better and start focusing on how we address other people, we’ll end up less disappointed. We’ll feel better about ourselves and other people. And when most of us do it, we’ll no longer need to ask to be treated better by others. They will just do it.

3 Things Which Decrease The More You Think About Them

I'm always occupied into thinking about anything. To the point that it gets in my way of doing something.  That causes a lot of perception about me being lazy. But the truth is I work hard. But only in the mind. Oh no, I'm not doing an excuse. I'm just trying to think of some ways that will make my work easier. But most of the time, it's taking the same length of time for me to think of a better  way compared with by doing it the way it is usually done. So I think I must also think of ways to improve my way of thinking about improving  my ways. What do you think?

Think

We think about a lot of stuffs. We all want to improve. And when we want to be better at something, we put a lot of thinking about it. We try to figure out how we can be ahead of ourselves. But there are things that gets better the less we are concerned about them. The more we burden ourselves to think about them, the more we get worse on it. Like these things:

1.   Maturity - I had been overestimating my maturity. And I cannot be the only one.  A lot of us do. And the more we talk and think about our maturity, the more it appears that we lack it. Maturity happens without us thinking about it. It is one thing that we don't need to tell other people that we have it. Especially the real mature ones. They can sense it from afar. How? I don't know. Better ask them.


2.   Discrimination - The more we are concerned about discrimination, the more we commit it. Discrimination, and the avoidance of it, makes people more sensitive to color, race, ethnicity, gender, etc. I discussed it longer on this post.


3.   Honesty - It is either you are honest or not. If you are thinking about "being honest", then most probably you are not. You are just it. But if you are dishonest, you can start to do it now. Don't think about being honest. Just be.




I think I just jeopardized myself on this post. I am talking about not to think about these things but then I just wrote about them. And it probably made you think about them also.I'm sorry. It could be a sign of my immaturity again, honestly.

Be Proud and Discriminating

I used to say that I am proud of something without even doing or achieving anything.  How is that possible? By the way, news just came in that 25 yr old Danilo Malinoc Gunaban of the province of Buligan just won the first ever World Water Polo Championship for our country. That’s great news! I’m proud to be a Buliganon! 

Discrimination is an irony. Or maybe on how people think what it is all about. By trying to avoid it, we do crazy things that eventually aggravate it. When people try to make someone or a group who were once discriminated feel special, it's always a borderline saying that they really are not special but just for the sake of making them feel good now, they will celebrate things to show them that they are. And for those among them who aren't even feeling the ill treatment for their group, they’ll be reminded again of the harsh things which were once done to their people in the past.  Then they will now feel the discrimination which they never noticed was there in the first place. Discrimination is one thing that when every time people talk about it, the more it gets committed. The more it is tried being avoided, the more it gets worse.

Discrimination happens, no doubt about it. Though there were instances when we try to avoid it and console the victim, the way we do it in itself is a message of discrimination. Like the commemoration and grandeur cheers on feats of some people and attaching their achievement to their race, ethnicity, color, beliefs, gender or anything else about them, except for their hard work, focus and discipline. Then some people of their own race, ethnicity, color, beliefs, gender, or whatever that they think they are similar will relate themselves to that person without even doing anything that reflects his greatness. That is discrimination at its best. I mean worst.

Justice!

Then there's the annual celebration of remembering specific color, gender, ethnicity, affiliation, etc to commemorate their contributions to the society. It’s good if done once. Or maybe twice.  But doing it annually is like a joke. It is like saying it’s not usual for them to do such big things that we have to be reminded yearly how great they are. We’re all humans anyway. We’re all capable to do things what our neighbor, classmate, friend, or any other living human beings can do, of course, excluding the things which some of us are limited due to our biological make. We all are of the same mold anyway.  The irony of this is that more we do these “memorials”, the more we segregate the people. And the more we tell people that our color, our sexual orientation or the thing between our legs matter to what we give into this world, the more hate it produces and discrimination becomes more rampant. We strive to be "color blind" and look beyond gender by telling people that we must look at the contribution of humans because of their color or gender.  

And unfortunately, one of the major effect that these acts achieved in the past few years is that it turned the table around. The oppressed of the past is now getting on the offensive side. And most of the time, by using the "discrimination card".

Okay, the news on the first paragraph is fake. You can’t win a championship alone in water polo. It’s a team sports. And there’s no such thing as a province of Buligan in our country nor there such a Danilo Maniloc Gunaban guy. Or maybe there is. And if there’s one such guy named like that then I’m sorry. Though if ever he achieves something great in the future then I will be proud of him. But I won’t dare say I’m proud to be Pinoy because of it. He will be successful because of his hard work and discipline, not simply because he is a Filipino.  If that happens and if I would say I’m proud to be Pinoy, then I’m discriminating.