Monday, December 10, 2012

Taking it Easy on Making it Easy on my Kid



I always fear for my child’s future. The negative possibilities always come up to mind. What if I lose my job tomorrow? What if something bad happens to me or his mom? Or it could also be something bigger. It could be as big as a national problem like an epidemic or a war or anything bad that you could imagine. 


I’m sure that most parents have thought of the same things. It’s natural for moms and dads to be protective of their children’s welfare. With these things in mind, we all strive to provide all their needs. And we get occupied in providing them a better future, but might be too occupied from shaping them to be better in the future.


Don't bother him. He's busy


Parents will try to provide their children’s needs as much as possible and at times even more than what’s basic. We feed them good food to ensure they are healthy.  We buy them clothes.  We work hard for their education. Many parents will say they won’t let their kids experience the hardships they encountered in life. Sounds noble.  I too wouldn’t want my son to go through most of the bad things that I had. And we try so hard to give them everything that we forget we’re being selfish on giving what’s more important for them. We shield them away from the challenges and difficulties which tested our character . The things that taught us hard lessons which made us what we are now.  We keep them in so much comfort until they get to meet the hardships too late.  We deprive them of learning from life itself. 


Every time I look at my son, I see a full-grown man in him. A future citizen.  He’ll become a head of a family or a group soon. This little fellow would be in authority one day. He’ll have responsibilities.  He will be assigned and will assign tasks.  All of those will happen one day. It’s my role to prepare him for that moment starting from day one.  He’s a child now but won’t be for long. Same as the other kids. They will replace us someday. And more than the material things they need is to be equipped with the right virtues and wisdom so they can perform better than our generation. The foundation of the future depends on how much we strengthen the young.  

Youth is the hope according to our great hero. And it's our hands that build them.


Let them stumble and stand on their own but support them. Give them freedom to decide but guide them. Let them think for themselves but always be there to answer questions.  Let them try and experience success. And more so, to experience failures.  For these things is what will build their character. And collectively as a generation they will build the future of our society. 


My wife and I are doing lots of preparation for our family’s future like getting an insurance, doing investments and others to ensure that our son would be fine financially. We’re still far from being okay but at least we started already.  I also created this blog that once he grows up, he’ll be able to read my thoughts and the lessons that I wanted to teach him. And I won’t have the burden to repeat them in case my memory starts failing. And this specific post will be here to remind me to take it easy on making everything so easy for him so that his uncertain future will be easier for him to handle.

24 comments:

  1. i can relate so much to this :)

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  2. isang proud daddy ka na pala parekoy :)

    ganyan talaga ang nararamdaman ng isang ama para sa kanyang anak. di ba gagawin mo ang lahat for your child's welfare.

    are you a spoiler dad? or in between?

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    1. Hi Fiel. Yep, dad na ako and maliit pa naman si baby. Mag 1 yr old pa lang. sakto lang naman akong daddy. ;)

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  3. Isang daddy ka pala ser. Pagbutihan mo daddy. I'm sure naman magiging mabuti kang ama :)

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  4. I wish all dads have same wavelengths with you in that matter. :)

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    1. Iba ibang style naman din ang mga daddy pero for sure, majority naman ay gusto para sa ikabubuti ng mga anak syempre. Thanks Pao :)

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  5. well said po. gusto ko din magka baby pero anxious ako sa pwedeng mangyari, especially nowadays young generation tends to be really different. di naman ako tumatanda, but i just can't connect with their likes and dislikes. me cousin kasi akong lalaki na di ko talaga ma wari bakit puro computer games nalang sa kokoti nila. tapos yung morality pa these days. iba talaga.

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    1. nakakalungkot nga pag nakakakita tayo ng ganon pero di pa naman late para magbago ang mga kabataan. lalo na kung may maggu-guide na matatanda. Masarap ang may baby. nakakawala ng pagod. :) Thanks Phioxee

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  6. di ako makarelate. haha!

    seriously, tama ang iyong mga sinabi. sabi ko nga sa isang post ko dati, masyadong bine-baby ang mga kabataan ngayon. mainam din naman na makaranas sila ng paghihirap minsan para mas ma-appreciate nila ang buhay. good luck papa rogie!

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    1. oo pre, naaalala ko yun. yung bine-baby yung college nang anak. hehehehe. salamat pre

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  7. before anything else gusto ko lang sabihin na ang cute cute ng baby mo! nakikita ko yung mga pictures nya na pinopost mo sa fb he's so loveable.. pwede ko ba sya hiramin?..hehe..

    anyway angree ako sa mga sinabi mo..im sure you'll teach him enough things that he needs to learn as he grows :)

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    1. hahaha, naku marami pila sa nanghihiram kay mik eh :P Salamat Airline

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  8. hanep. ang lakas ng dating ng pagkakasulat mo bro.

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    1. Salamat bro. Kmusta na? welcome back sa blogging world. ;-)

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  9. a must read for all the parents... naiisip kong ganito din ang erpat at ermat ko sakin. Salamat sa post na ito :)

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    1. sa tingin ko e mahusay naman ang pagpapalaki talaga sa yo ng parents mo kaya isa ka ring malupet na nilalang na iniidolo ng marami. hehehe. Salamat bro. :)

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  10. Happy New Year!

    wala pa akong anak pero kung sa pag-aalaga ng pamangkin (siguro ito na muna yung practice hehe) ayoko silang batang brat, bukod sa hindi kami mayamang angkan. i want them to become independent and understand kung ito puwede at yung isa hindi puwede. medyo ganun din kami pinalaki ni nanay. saka nakikita ko yung effect.

    pero siempre kailangan din naman madama ng mga bata na nandyan ka pag kailangan ka nila at handa mong ibigay ang iyong suporta lalo na kapag maganda ang kanilang ginagawa.

    mabuhay!

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    1. Salamat madam Hoshi.

      dapat talaga nakaantabay tayo para makita natin mali man o tama ang ginagawa nila. :)

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  11. It is natural for us to want what is better for our children but I totally agree that we have to ensure we are actually readying them for tomorrow. @afrinaso

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  12. great insights here, bro. fatherhood/parenting appears to be yet another balancing act, among a myriad balancing acts in life. thanks for sharing your thoughts on fatherhood!

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